FAQ

How do I use this site if I am a school principal?

There is a host of information on this site. You may consult all the sections to become familiar with all the various components of an anti-violence plan or refer to one section in particular to find answers to specific questions.

Introducing this site to your school team, anti-violence committee as well as facilitators or educators who interact with HSMLD students would also be extremely beneficial.   

How do I use this site if I work as a teacher or facilitator?

You can take advantage of extensive information, ideas and examples that take into account the needs of HSMLD SMLHstudents in the prevention of violence and in situations where intervention for an act of violence is required.

What do I do if I am the parent of a child who is a victim of violence or bullying? 

As a parent, you can act.

If you learn that your child has been a victim of bullying or violence: 

  • Remain calm, your child needs reassurance and support. 
  • Take the time listen to your child. 
  • Ask for a description of the situation in detail. 
  • Do not blame your child.

What can you do on behalf of your child?

  • Speak to his teacher or a member of school personnel, his trainer or any other facilitator or person who could be aware of the situation and who could help your child deal with the situation. Act immediately. 
  • Encourage your child to report his aggressor(s). Be sure your child knows that there is nothing wrong in doing so and that it takes courage to deal with the situation. 
  • Show your child that you are with him and that you will help him find a solution. 
  • Tell your child that  revenge or reprisals will only serve to backfire.
  • Encourage your child to be with friends that he can count on. In a group, there is a less of a risk to be bullied and he will be better able to defend himself. 
  • Advise your child to stay away as much as possible from places that are more conducive to bullying or violence. 
  • Remain attentive to your child’s behaviour and, after a few days, call back the facilitators whom you contacted for help. 
  • If the situation jeopardizes the normal functioning of your child, ask for help from a psychologist, psychoeducator or school social worker or from a health and social services centre (CSSS), family services or any other community service.
  • Do not wait until the situation deteriorates. You can contact the school administration to report any form of violence.

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What do I do if I am a parent whose child witnessed violence?

Listen attentively to your child and advise him on the behaviour to adopt:

  • Explain that bullies need an audience. Without an audience, they have less power. 
  • Tell your child that he has an important role to play and that the way he reacts could encourage or discourage a bully. 
  • Explain that he could intervene directly if he feels that his safety is not threatened, otherwise he should obtain help from an adult who could intervene. 
  • Remind your child of the importance of reporting violence or bullying. Ensure he understands that by reporting it, he is helping someone else and that he is not a “rat”. 
  • Suggest that he notify an adult at school whom he trusts (e.g.: teachers, psychologist, trainer, supervisor, janitor). 
  • Remind him that he can always go to the principal or administration to report a situation of violence or bullying.

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What do I do if I am the parent of a child who commits an act of violence or bullying?

  • Discuss with the professionals or facilitators familiar with the situation, how you and your child can receive help. 
  • Explain the consequences if he continues this behaviour (suspension, expulsion from school, police report, legal proceedings). 
  • If needed, ask for help from the school psychologist or, depending on your needs, from the school social worker, from a health and social services centre (CSSS), or family and youth services. 
  • Contact the school principal to report the violence and bullying and obtain the necessary support for your child. 
  • You can act to help your child to stop acts of violence.
  • If you hear that your child is responsible for an incident(s) of violence, you must show him that while he can count on your support , he must understand the severity of his actions:
  • Remain calm and listen to what he has to say.
  • Convey the idea that you take this very seriously. 
  • Explain the serious nature of the situation and the consequences of his actions or words.
  • Find a disciplinary measure that is suitable to the situation to apply. 
  • Collaborate with school personnel in order to resolve the situation quickly.
  • Offer him the help that he needs.
  • Discuss how he could express his anger without hurting others.
  • Discuss any example of bullying or violence that he sees on television, in a film, a video game or in the street. 
  • Remind him that it is important to respect others despite their differences: (sexual orientation, race, physical capacity). 
  • Try to spend more time with him and supervise his activities. 
  • Try to find out who his friends are and how they spend their free time
  • Schedule a meeting with the school principal, if necessary.

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Should all the information on this site be used in all schools?

No. The information provided here represents suggestions for best practices. They should be used following an evaluation of each event according to the needs of the school.

 

*Masculine gender is used only in order to simplify the text.